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Hooray! Now What?

Now WhatBy all accounts, 2015 has been a satisfying year for me, personally and professionally. In addition to taking a wonderful family vacation to Israel, getting two kids off to high school, and cutting my work-related travel in half, I accomplished three goals that, as part of our family tradition, warranted a Carvel ice cream cake:

  • I began teaching Management Communication at Wharton Business School.
  • I was published in Harvard Business Review.
  • I lost 25 lbs. (Trust me: I get the irony of celebrating this goal with cake).

What do all three have in common? Yes, they’re all impressive – but that’s not what I mean. And yes, they’re all the result of hard work – and that’s not what I mean either. What these three things have in common for me is that within 24 hours of reaching each of these goals, I thought to myself, “Now what?”

I gave myself a day (and probably only a few hours, if I’m being honest) to enjoy the achievement, and then had a sudden dip in interest, motivation and satisfaction as my mind began to scramble for what new goal I was supposed to be setting next. What could I do to get the next buzz? How could I top myself? What would make me happy next?

And all of a sudden, it hit me: The only thing that would “make me happy next” was slowing down my goal-driven behavior long enough to actually experience being happy. I knew what yearning felt like, and what accomplishing felt like, and what adrenaline felt like, but I had very little experience living with what just being satisfied felt like. For a professional coach who helps clients discover and lean into what’s already working well in their lives, and for a seasoned mom who teaches her kids to be grateful for what they have rather than always wanting more, I realized that I was out of alignment with my own integrity.

Eleanor Roosevelt said,

Happiness is not a goal. It’s a by-product of a life well lived.

My goal for 2016 (scratch goal, replace with plan) isn’t to want more, do more or have more.

It’s simply to be happy with what I already, blessedly have.

2 Responses to Hooray! Now What?

  • Wonderful – and the fact that you put t out there in the universe will help you stay honest with your goals and achieve and be happy with where you are at this moment in time. Your very proud (and happy) mom

  • Deborah,

    We met several years ago when you were presenting for the Federation in Tucson. I have been following your writing ever since. You have accomplished so much and have much to be proud of and I love that you are “stopping to smell the flowers.” It is a very good message to give to all of us who are always measuring our success and level of happiness by what we have achieved and what is on the next horizon.

    Much peace, joy and happiness in the year to come!
    Carol Sack, Jewish Community Fdn. of So. Az, Dir. of Legacy Development

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