My Jewish Coach – Deborah Riegel
Rewrite Your Resume and Get Real Results!
Rewrite Your Resume and Get Real Results!
With Resume Guru Leslie Bobrowsky
30 Minute Laser Teleclass
Wednesday, January 28th, 2009
1 pm Eastern/10 am Pacific
Cost – FREE!
Good news — you’ve found a great job listing! Or is it bad news because you have to update your resume – or even write it from scratch? Don’t worry! Once you know key guidelines for creating a resume that will get read, you can refine or recreate your resume successfully. In this information-packed, practical teleclass, resume guru Leslie Bobrowsky of Specialty Training Services Inc. will explain easy ways to refresh and energize your resume including how to:
- Increase the chance that your resume gets noticed.
- Determine what to include and what to omit.
- Write dynamic content that demonstrates your value.
- Choose the best format and organization of material.
- Craft a pertinent job objective and a key skills list.
You’ll learn the five big Do’s and five big Don’ts. And, you’ll discover how to transform your resume into an effective sales tool.
Email me to get the call-in information for this FREE session.
Leslie Bobrowsky, President of Specialty Training Services, Inc., is a communication skills and selling skills consultant. Prior to founding her firm 20 years ago, she hired part-time consultants for a consulting firm, sold training programs, and taught résumé writing and job search skills for Federal government agencies. She’s seen a lot of résumés. Privately, her clients have always sought her help with their résumés, and she now combines expertise in business writing and selling to provide résumé renovation services. Visit her at www.specialtytraining.com.
Looking forward to seeing you on the call!
Deborah
www.myjewishcoach.com
Stop Showing Me How Smart You Are
If you don’t know Marshall Goldsmith, you ought to.
Business coach to the stars and author of one of my favorite books, “What Got You Here Won’t Get You There” Goldsmith is the brains behind one of my favorite pieces of coaching advice for managers: Stop adding value.
Wha? Isn’t that what they pay you for? To add value? Yes — but not at the expense of your direct reports’ commitment to execution.
Goldsmith gives this scenario: Imagine that your staffer comes to you, brimming with excitement (it could happen!) about a great idea she has. As her manager, you recognize that the idea is good (maybe a 75 out of 100) — but YOU could make it great! So you add value (advice, tweaks, resources, suggestions, etc.), and in doing so, you take a 75 idea to an 80 BUT YOU CUT HER COMMITMENT TO EXECUTION BY 50%! Why? Because it is no longer HER idea — it’s yours.
Was it worth it?
The book certainly is.
And for those of you who like FREE, you can download and share lots of Goldsmith’s stuff by visiting his library.
Happy holiday reading!
Deborah
www.myjewishcoach.com
Have Your Book, And Read It, Too!
I was speaking this morning with a coaching client, who was trying to commit to an exercise program. When I asked her what some of the roadblocks were, she mentioned that she gets herself caught up in a good book, and then doesn’t want to break away from the book to go to the gym.
Now for me, I don’t even need a GOOD book as a temptation to skip a workout! But here’s what I do: I have a special, terrible stash of junky magazines I pick up from my airport visits (I am too embarrassed to name them here, but you probably can guess that at least one of them leads with a “Britney!” headline) — and I only allow myself to read them on the treadmill, bike or elliptical. That way, when I am craving crap (of the intellectual kind), I take myself directly to a sweat n’ read session.
I suggested to my client that she buy a stash of books she has been eager to read, and park them in her gym bag. They can only escape that gym bag AT THE GYM. They are not to see the light of day anywhere else.
Her response? “Why didn’t I think of that?”
My response: “Hey, that’s what a coach is for!”
Happy reading!!!
Deborah
www.myjewishcoach.com
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Work-Life Balance: What the Jews can learn from a Monk
Last February, I was a speaker at the Training Magazine Conference and Exposition, sharing some highlights from “Corporate Universities in the Non-Profit Sector,” a chapter I wrote in a business book (or as my mom put it: “dry”) The Next Generation of Corporate Universities (Mark Allen, ed.) One of the best things about speaking at conferences is that you get to attend the rest of the sessions for free, and I found myself in a session with a captivating speaker, Kenny Moore, former monk and present-day business executive. Talk about bashert — he is the Corporate Ombudsman and Human Resources Director at KeySpan Corporation (now National Grid), where my husband works!
Anyhow, Kenny, author of “The CEO and the Monk” and host of the KennytheMonk.com website wrote a great piece in an email about Work-Life Balance that I am reproducing here, with not just his permission but his blessings (I mean, he was a monk…). BTW: He told me he loves the MyJewishCoach.com website!
So keep reading…
Work-Life Balance: A Conspiracy of Optimism
By Kenny Moore
Work-Life balance is, at best, a fabrication. At worst, a cruel hoax.
It’s time to stop believing all the hype. As adults, we well understand that it’s never been a question of balance. It’s always been a question of choice. As the Spanish proverb reminds us: “Take what you want, says God, just pay for it.”
Living with the Consequences
Sharon Edelstein has a young daughter named Rebecca. Sharon came home from work one day and found her jumping on the bed and told her to stop – she was going to get hurt. “I won’t get hurt” Rebecca said, and continued bouncing. Her mother repeated the warning and added that she might also break the bed. “No, I won’t,” Rebecca insisted. Her mother gave up. “Fine,” she said. “Do what you want. You’ll just have to live with the consequences.” Rebecca immediately stopped bouncing. “I don’t want to go and live with them, Mommy,” she said. “I don’t even know who the Consequences are.”
As the ancient seers stated so well, we don’t get to do everything in a single lifetime. We merely get to make choices. Not all choices. Only some. And we pay a price for the one’s we choose. Sort of like being at a buffet luncheon without your cardiologist. You can eat anything that’s available; you have only to deal with the aftereffects.
Growing old gracefully provides more than ample opportunity to get clear about what we consider important and then make our decisions accordingly. In this journey called life, we’re all free to do whatever we want. And like Rebecca, we need only live with the consequences.
But don’t expect to get balance. What we’ll get is stress: that dynamic tension of trying to creatively live out our lives in a less-than-perfect world. And we’re required to do it all as frail, flawed and frightened mortals.
Want a high-flying business career? Go for it.
Might you desire to get married, raise a family and live in conjugal bliss? Good for you.
Maybe you’d prefer to use your artistic talents and create a world of new possibilities? God bless.
Perhaps you’d want to be independent and care free? I’m envious.
But if you expect to have it all, get ready to play center stage in your own exciting Greek Tragedy.
Finding Help in Unusual Places
I’ve got a wife who works full time and two teen age boys who are experts at disrupting the status quo. I spend most of my days behind a desk in a corporate job. I haven’t yet found any balance. Mostly, I’ve found chaos. But alas, on a good day, some insight.
I no longer look to Jack Welch or Oprah Winfrey to give much help in discerning life’s mystery. Rather, I look to the poets. Freud got a few things right and he was certainly on to something when he said: “Everywhere I go, I find a poet has been there before me.”
Making choices and living out the inherent tension it creates requires a focus on “being” rather than “doing.” The ability to be silent, ponder the deeper possibilities and creatively craft a life-response are aspects of maturity more closely akin to the work of a Poet than a CEO.
Fostering this poetic outlook requires a personal discipline that may not be to everyone’s liking. For those not yet ready to embrace it but prefer an addiction to cell phones, e-mails and non-stop meetings, e. e. cummings offers some practical words of advice:
Poetry is being, not doing
If you would follow,
Even at a distance,
The poet’s calling,
You’ve got to come out of the
Measurable doing universe
Into the immeasurable house of being.
Nobody can be alive for you.
Nor can you be alive for anyone else.
If you can take it, take it and be,
If you can’t, cheer up and go about
Other people’s business, and do and undo
Until you drop.
Wasting Time: a Portal to the Divine
There’s been a spate of books about Atheism surfacing of late on the New York Time’s Best Seller list, but I don’t think it’s gaining broad acceptance. For most people, it’s not a practical choice. It seems Henny Youngman’s experience continues to hold sway: “I thought about becoming an atheist, but I gave it up. There were no Holidays.”
The real threat for modern folks is not a lack of belief. It’s a lack of time. We’re so busy being productive and trying to get balance in our lives that we’re in danger of missing the Divine when He shows up.
Being busy may work wonders for our Professional life, but it wreaks havoc on our Interior one.
If we want to find some semblance of sanity and advance in our Spiritual Journey, we may need to slow down, risk being less productive and indulge in the ancient rite of “Wasting Time.”
In my earlier days, I spent 15 years in a monastic community as a Catholic priest. I remember once reading about “The Good Samaritan Experiment” with 40 seminarians at Princeton Theological Seminary. After waxing eloquently about their dedication to God and all His people, they were asked to deliver a sermon on the parable of The Good Samaritan. For those lacking the rigors of monastic studies, it’s the story told by Jesus about a man who was set upon by robbers, beaten and left on the side of the road. A priest walks by and offers no help. Neither does a Levite, another religious leader of the era. It’s a lone man from Samaria, hated by the local gentry, who goes out of his way to offer assistance – hence the title: Good Samaritan.
In the Princeton experiment, when the seminarians had their homily prepared, they were asked to walk to another part of the campus and deliver their sermon to waiting students. Half were told to hurry, because they were running late. The others were informed there was no rush, they had plenty of time.
As they journeyed across campus, the experimenters arranged to have an actor slumped as a “victim” strategically positioned along their route so that the seminarians were forced to step over or around the man.
So, who stopped to help … and who didn’t? They were all budding “men of the cloth” on their way to deliver a sermon on just such a situation.
What the experiment revealed was that those who were in a hurry passed the “victim” by. Those with time to spare, stopped and helped. It seems altruism and our commitment to our fellow man is less connected to our religious beliefs and more closely aligned with having some free time.
When the Divine shows up, most of us are busy being too productive to even notice His presence. Maybe God doesn’t care whether we go to church, temple or mosque. Maybe He’s already out in the world waiting to meet us, but we keep passing Him by because we’re in such a hurry.
Paying a Price for Living our Lives
Since leaving the monastery, I’d had two near-death experiences. The first was with “incurable” cancer. The second, a heart attack. Both were not-so-subtle reminders that my time’s running short.
We’re not going to be around forever, and we’re not able to have it all. Acknowledging this will generate more than ample disappointment and regret. And we’ll pay a price for it: Guilt.
But don’t be dismayed. Guilt doesn’t necessarily mean that we’ve done something wrong. It’s more an indication that we have said “no” to some larger authority: parent, teacher, boss. Guilt’s an indication that we’ve chosen to live our own lives and not someone else’s.
Stop trying to achieve balance and start learning to enjoy chaos. Discovering and relishing one’s imperfect life sooner rather than later is what’s available.
Oliver Wendell Holmes said that most of us go to our graves with our music still inside. So, forget about work-life balance and let go of the need to please everybody. Rather, get out there and make some choices and let your music resonate.
The guilt won’t kill you and you’ll do just fine if some folks don’t like you.
And you certainly don’t need to have it all. For as Steven Wright reminds us: even if you did, where would you put it?
P.S. If you’re thinking about writing me, give in to the temptation. I love getting mail … and being influenced by what you have to say. Please e-mail me at kennythemonk@yahoo.com.
Deborah
www.myjewishcoach.com
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Is an elephant rope keeping you from getting to goal?
See? I told you there would be more to the elephant story (and if you don’t know what I’m talking about, check out my previous post: https://myjewishcoach.com/get-moving-on-those-goals-by-eating-elephant-steaks/)
You’ve got a goal, right? And with that goal comes a list of excuses for why you can’t make it happen. Check your list of reasons why not — and I’ll bet you’ll find an elephant rope.
When baby elephants are brought into the circus, they get a rope tied around their leg to keep them from running away. And it works pretty well (I mean, how many times have you heard on the news that a baby elephant escaped from the circus? Exactly). Now, when that elephant grows up, it can weight between 3 and 6 TONS — one firm yank of the rope, and that elephant is off! Except that the elephant stays put. Why? Because she has learned over time that the rope will keep her from running off. Even though it’s no longer true. Even though she has it within her power to move at will.
What elephant ropes are keeping you tied down? What excuses do you have, and firmly believe to be true, where a simple reality-test — a firm tug at the rope — would show that the only thing holding you back is an old belief? Who can you test this with? What might be possible for you if it turns out that you are truly stronger, braver, and more able than you originally believed?
Keep me posted.
Deb
www.myjewishcoach.com
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Do You Know Your Top 3 Goals for 2008?
Take the free 5 Minute Quiz and download your Free Goals Report!
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Who is on your Personal Board of Directors?
“Ask your team; they know the answer.” — Chuck Carlson
That’s great advice — if you have a team. And I’ll bet you do…you just might not have thought about it that way. I think of my team as my Personal Board of Directors.
Non-profit corporation law states that the Board of Directors has three primary duties: Duty of Care, Duty of Loyalty, and Duty of Obedience.
Duty of Care: A board member has the duty to exercise reasonable care when he or she makes a decision for the organization. Reasonable care is what an “ordinarily prudent” person in a similar situation would do.
In your personal life, who would you trust to make good decisions with you, or even for you, if need be? Who would regard your well-being as highly as her or his own? Is it mutual?
Duty of Loyalty: A board member must always act in the best interests of the organization, and never use information gained through his/her position for personal gain.
In your personal life, who acts in your best interest? Who is loyal to you in your absence? Who’s got your back?
Duty of Obedience: A board member must act in a way that is consistent and aligned with the goals of the organization, and be faithful to its mission. The board member is also trusted with fiduciary management aimed at fulfilling the organization’s mission.
In your personal life, who suppports you in developing in your own unique direction? Who gives you room to grow and well as acts as a touchstone for your core personal values? Who would call you on your BS — or step if if he or she saw you going down a path that might take you away from yourself? And who would you trust with your most personal information — health decisions, financial data, etc.?
Take a few minutes to think about it. Who is on your Personal Board of Directors? Why? And have you told them?
I guess there’s nothing wrong with blogging for board recruitment, right?
Hey, Wendy…can I officially recruit you to my Personal Board of Directors?
Deb
Do You Know Your Top 3 Goals for 2008?
Take the free 5 Minute Quiz and download your Free Goals Report!
Get it here: http://www.FreeGoalsReport.com/quiz.asp?id=2243
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